A large part of being able to accomplish something is belief in your self. So, what do YOU want to accomplish? A life long dream? A new career adventure? A higher education? Better health? Can I tell you something? Whatever you want you can accomplish.
I'll say it again, mainly because you might not believe me, Whatever you want you can acomplish.
There are millions of people out in the world today living their dreams and accomplishing what the rest of us would consider 'the impossible'. And do you know why they are living their dreams and everyone else is sitting around dreaming about their dreams? Because they have belief in themselves.
They believe whatever they want they can accomplish.
They didn't let fear or lack of confidence, lack of money, education, their past or anything they could dream up, keep them from believing in themselves. Oh, these things were there. And they failed over and over again. But they didn't let these things get the best of them. They got back up and tried once more. They believed they could.
So now that you know WHY we don't accomplish, let me share with you the HOW we can accomplish.
Confidence training. Just like those who are living their dreams and never gave up.
And because the whole purpose of this blog is to help you realize dogs help us flourish...I'll revert to using tips from, what else? Dog confidence training:
And now it squeaks non stop, no jumping.
So...get out your squeaky toy.
What is one thing that you fear the most that's keeping you from accomplishing?
Now that you've named it, begin exposing yourself to it.
If it's fear you fear the most, then begin exposing yourself to things you fear.
It can be something simple to start out with like talking to a stranger.
Maybe start by just smiling at a stranger.
Then once you know nothing bad is going to happen by you smiling, then start saying “hello” to them. Then once you've gotten comfortable with that, begin adding a compliment along with the “hello”. And so on til you're able to move on to a social situation where you need to have a conversation with someone. You get the idea.
Then once you've accomplished that move on to something bigger that you fear.
Do this every day to build your self-belief to a point that even though you still feel the fear,
there's no guarantee that will go away, you'll do it anyway because you know the FEAR IS JUST A FEELING NOT TRUTH
2. The more "strange" things you introduce your dog to, the more confident he will become.
You used to take walks and he'd jump at a leaf.
Now there's barely anything that appears strange to him. No more skulking around suspicious, now he spends time exploring confidently.
Maybe there are things you're not necessarily afraid of, but they're not something your used to.
Like new foods. Begin adding a repertoire of new foods into your meals daily.
You'll begin to realize that they aren't as bad as you thought!
They become something that you're now more accustomed to, maybe even love, and you'll have more confidence in trying newer, even BIGGER things!
3. By encouraging your dog that "braver is better" you help to build his confidence.
Positive affirmations are beautiful things!
You're always giving your pup some “atta boys” and lovin' for things he does right.
It encourages him to do it again and again.
You're no different.
Google some encouraging quotes or sayings that you can post around your house or where ever you can read them every time you achieve an accomplishment.
Or tell someone else about your accomplishment. There's nothing like a good pat on the back from a friend or confident to make you want to keep up the good work.
4. Rewarding behavior (any behavior that is even slightly appropriate) builds confidence as well.
Don't forget to reward yourself for your achievements no matter how small!!
Fido wouldn't go without a yummy treat for each step new accomplishment he makes...why should you??
5. Work on these exercises in areas where your dog formerly lacked confidence and you will go a long way toward building his "power" in these situations and lowering his anxiety.
So by working on the 'lack' areas, you're building empowering self-belief and lowering your anxiety!
Who woulda' thought??
6. The process of building confidence in a dog involves a lengthy process of desensitization. Above all be patient. Results won’t be immediate.
TRUE! Just remember to keep your eye on the goal and your dog in mind as you're going through your confidence training.
You WILL create self-belief. I guarantee that you will accomplish whatever you believe especially when it's YOURSELF!
Look, If dogs can do it why can't you?
And why not work on confidence training for your dog too? Practice for you taking steps you need and maybe even additional confidence trying something brand new!
I'd love to hear your experiences trying out your confidence training...for your dog too! My The Canine Flourishing Secret kickoff teleseminar is coming up quickly, dates are coming out soon, and I'd love your feedback for the best informational hour I can give you!
I thank you and your dog thanks you!
I am Beth Frye